What you’ll be told to think about…
ccessories
To be honest, despite the cuteness of it, I wish I had found a classier quote to kick off the series. This is not an indication that this blog condones the antics of La Hilton (frivolous and exciting as they may be) in any way, shape or form.
Right. Now that we’ve got the disclaimers out, let’s get the ball rolling. Accessories. I’ve known many a bride who fusses and frets over what accessories to wear on her big day, because the shoes must match the dress must match the earrings must match the tiara. What I’m going to say now might sound crazy, but chill out.
That means put the necklace down. And the matching earrings. And the tennis bracelet with the slightly fiddly clasp that you would really like to wear even though it might probably snag the Venetian lace on your bodice.
Don’t get me wrong, I think every girl should think about what accessories she’ll be wearing on a daily basis, much less a bride-to-be on her wedding day. Given half the chance, I might even be persuaded to accessorise my pyjamas with a nice pocket square… but I digress. Accessories are important, and form a big part of how well-put-together you’ll be on your big day. You’ll need to figure out where you’ll get your earrings from, which hand to wear your engagement ring on (it’s typically on the left ring finger according to Western customs, and swapped to the right hand or not worn at all during the wedding ceremony, but you already knew that ^^), or whether your wedding budget will stretch to accommodate that pair of satin Jimmy Choos, but whatever you do, never let your accessories, or your search for them, distract from you.
The fact of the matter is, ultimately the focus should be on you, not your accessories. Sure, they’ll serve as the perfect frame to a beautiful painting (you!), but under no circumstances should the frame overshadow the painting. You, my friend, are not a jewellery tree.
"I pity the fool who over-accessorizes!"
During my wedding prep, I realised that accessories play but a supporting role in a wedding. I wasn’t going to let a bunch of heavy diamond earrings outshine me on my big day (that’s not to say that I had said diamond earrings, but that’s by the by), and neither should you. There are people who are prepared to beg, steal or borrow to get the perfect pair of earrings, or the perfect necklace to complement their outfit, and while there’s no sin in that, it becomes a problem when such attention to detail morphs into something otherwise unhealthy.
Come to think of it, good old Miss Hilton probably had a point when she said that a girl’s best accessory is her best friend. Like a true-blue best friend, your accessories should accentuate your best features, not reflect what the latest trend is (although if the latest trend suits you to a tee, then more power to you), or be included just so you can upstage your neighbour who got married last month. Figure out what works for you, and you’ll look like yourself, only better, on your wedding day, without risking looking like a Christmas tree.
What you should really be thinking about…
nger Management
Now you must be thinking I’m really nuts. Your wedding is supposed to be the happiest day of your life, right? Anger management should be the farthest thing from your mind!
Let's get real. Weddings are chock-full of friends, family and loved ones. Have you ever argued with your younger brother? Or your mother? Or your cousin? Of course you have. Add that to a (probable) history of vendettas, rivalry and skeletons in the closet, which families and friends most definitely have, and you have a veritable minefield of nuances that you’ll need to plough through in order to avoid a fight at the dinner table just because your Aunt Joan looked at our Christine's niece the wrong way.
Not to mention that weddings take effort. Even if you have a wedding budget bigger than the GDP of a small country and are blessed enough to have a wedding planner / fairy godmother, there will be logistics issues, budgeting issues, décor issues… the list goes on. Organising a party on such a large scale and juggling so many factors means that, in some way or another, things may not go exactly to plan – and when things don’t go to plan… trust me. This all chalks up to unneeded stress, which may spell disaster for even the most unflappable bride. In the lead-up to your wedding, and maybe even on the big day, it’ll be hard not to see red even once.
So the facts are these: you will get angry. You will get frustrated. You and your helpers will find it hard to be perfect and smiling 24/7 when things go wrong and tempers start to fray. Hey, that's how the Bridezilla idea came about, right?
So where to go from here? Simple. Identify how you deal with stress, and figure out a de-stressing system that works best for you. Make sure that people who could hamper your state of calmness are kept at a safe distance. After all, haste makes waste, and all that stress and unhappiness would only serve to ruin relations with your bridesmaids, helpers, family members and what-have-you.
Dealing with your anger (potential or apparent) is a very personal thing, and figuring it out before you embark on any planning will help loads when a real emergency situation arises. Nothing works when tensions run high and egos collide, so in this case, prevention is definitely better than cure. All you want is for your day to be perfect, and girl, you'll need a genuine smile and an unclouded brow for that to happen. So go forth with your big plans for your dream wedding, but make sure that your temper is firmly reined in.
Any more important "A" items that should be considered? Let us know in the comments! Till next week, take care! ^~^
ccessories
“The best accessory a girl can have is her best friend.”
~ Paris Hilton, American actress (1981 - )
To be honest, despite the cuteness of it, I wish I had found a classier quote to kick off the series. This is not an indication that this blog condones the antics of La Hilton (frivolous and exciting as they may be) in any way, shape or form.
Right. Now that we’ve got the disclaimers out, let’s get the ball rolling. Accessories. I’ve known many a bride who fusses and frets over what accessories to wear on her big day, because the shoes must match the dress must match the earrings must match the tiara. What I’m going to say now might sound crazy, but chill out.
That means put the necklace down. And the matching earrings. And the tennis bracelet with the slightly fiddly clasp that you would really like to wear even though it might probably snag the Venetian lace on your bodice.
Don’t get me wrong, I think every girl should think about what accessories she’ll be wearing on a daily basis, much less a bride-to-be on her wedding day. Given half the chance, I might even be persuaded to accessorise my pyjamas with a nice pocket square… but I digress. Accessories are important, and form a big part of how well-put-together you’ll be on your big day. You’ll need to figure out where you’ll get your earrings from, which hand to wear your engagement ring on (it’s typically on the left ring finger according to Western customs, and swapped to the right hand or not worn at all during the wedding ceremony, but you already knew that ^^), or whether your wedding budget will stretch to accommodate that pair of satin Jimmy Choos, but whatever you do, never let your accessories, or your search for them, distract from you.
The fact of the matter is, ultimately the focus should be on you, not your accessories. Sure, they’ll serve as the perfect frame to a beautiful painting (you!), but under no circumstances should the frame overshadow the painting. You, my friend, are not a jewellery tree.
"I pity the fool who over-accessorizes!"
During my wedding prep, I realised that accessories play but a supporting role in a wedding. I wasn’t going to let a bunch of heavy diamond earrings outshine me on my big day (that’s not to say that I had said diamond earrings, but that’s by the by), and neither should you. There are people who are prepared to beg, steal or borrow to get the perfect pair of earrings, or the perfect necklace to complement their outfit, and while there’s no sin in that, it becomes a problem when such attention to detail morphs into something otherwise unhealthy.
Come to think of it, good old Miss Hilton probably had a point when she said that a girl’s best accessory is her best friend. Like a true-blue best friend, your accessories should accentuate your best features, not reflect what the latest trend is (although if the latest trend suits you to a tee, then more power to you), or be included just so you can upstage your neighbour who got married last month. Figure out what works for you, and you’ll look like yourself, only better, on your wedding day, without risking looking like a Christmas tree.
What you should really be thinking about…
nger ManagementNow you must be thinking I’m really nuts. Your wedding is supposed to be the happiest day of your life, right? Anger management should be the farthest thing from your mind!
Let's get real. Weddings are chock-full of friends, family and loved ones. Have you ever argued with your younger brother? Or your mother? Or your cousin? Of course you have. Add that to a (probable) history of vendettas, rivalry and skeletons in the closet, which families and friends most definitely have, and you have a veritable minefield of nuances that you’ll need to plough through in order to avoid a fight at the dinner table just because your Aunt Joan looked at our Christine's niece the wrong way.
Not to mention that weddings take effort. Even if you have a wedding budget bigger than the GDP of a small country and are blessed enough to have a wedding planner / fairy godmother, there will be logistics issues, budgeting issues, décor issues… the list goes on. Organising a party on such a large scale and juggling so many factors means that, in some way or another, things may not go exactly to plan – and when things don’t go to plan… trust me. This all chalks up to unneeded stress, which may spell disaster for even the most unflappable bride. In the lead-up to your wedding, and maybe even on the big day, it’ll be hard not to see red even once.
So the facts are these: you will get angry. You will get frustrated. You and your helpers will find it hard to be perfect and smiling 24/7 when things go wrong and tempers start to fray. Hey, that's how the Bridezilla idea came about, right?
Ladies, this could be you! (credit: Diana Roslam)
So where to go from here? Simple. Identify how you deal with stress, and figure out a de-stressing system that works best for you. Make sure that people who could hamper your state of calmness are kept at a safe distance. After all, haste makes waste, and all that stress and unhappiness would only serve to ruin relations with your bridesmaids, helpers, family members and what-have-you.
Dealing with your anger (potential or apparent) is a very personal thing, and figuring it out before you embark on any planning will help loads when a real emergency situation arises. Nothing works when tensions run high and egos collide, so in this case, prevention is definitely better than cure. All you want is for your day to be perfect, and girl, you'll need a genuine smile and an unclouded brow for that to happen. So go forth with your big plans for your dream wedding, but make sure that your temper is firmly reined in.
Any more important "A" items that should be considered? Let us know in the comments! Till next week, take care! ^~^
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